Deeper Wounds - Love and '"Family"




"The family's wounds take longer to heal.

The wounds originated by the closest family creates traumas, profound affection needs and a void too hard to fill.

The impact of an absent father, a toxic mother, an aggressive language - shouting and a child raising with no affection or sense of protection, causes more than the classical low self-esteem or fears hard to overcome.

The difficulty of overcoming   is in the brain that was damage very young. The stress experienced in very tender ages, changes the structure of the brain, as well the structures associated with emotions. Causing a deeper vulnerability, and an emotional abandonment, responsible for a higher risk of suffering emotional disorders.

The family is our first contact with the social world, if our basic needs are not fulfilled it can influence our whole lifetime.

Why is so hard to heal the wounds suffered in the begging of our life? 

Our society's culture tells us that the family circle is a fundamental pillar - However this not always happens.

The last place someone thinks that is going to get hurt, betrayed, disappointed or even abandoned is, without a doubt,  inside their own family. However, that happens more frequently than we can imagine. Is the duty and obligation of these figures of reference to provide us the best, trust, encouragement, positivity, love and safety. Sometimes they fail intentionally or unintentionally. 

For a child, a teenager or even an adult, experiencing this kind of betrayal or this kind of disappointment in their own family possibly develops a trauma to which we would never be prepared.

The betrayal or lack of affection in the family is more painful than a simple betrayal between friends or work colleagues. It's an attack to our identity and roots.

Family's wounds are inherited to the following generations.

A family is more than a genealogical tree, more than sharing the same genetic code and surnames.

Families share stories and emotional legacies. Often traumatic pasts are inherited from generation to generation in many ways."