Love and the fear of loss always come together.
When we love we are always afraid of losing love.
We can lose our lover for distance, for our differences, for work, for expectations, for someone else, for death..
We don't want to lose what love make us feel..
So, we feel the need to control it.
It can be through the constant assurance of the "I love you", the physical affection, the making us needed, the knowing always where the other is or what is doing.
It can be through the constant assurance of the "I love you", the physical affection, the making us needed, the knowing always where the other is or what is doing.
We need security. The way we feel, now, depends on how the other person makes us feel. It doesn't depend on us anymore.
We are vulnerable and that makes us anxious.
Can we rely our feelings to our partner?
But love imprisoned, controlled is not love. It becomes a possession.
We cannot turn ourselves into a slave of love and our partner into a prisoner of our love.
We cannot turn ourselves into a slave of love and our partner into a prisoner of our love.
Love needs to be.. needs to just be love.. needs to breath..
Love is unpredictable. Because it's a feeling.
Isn't something you can buy and keep it in a safe place forever.
Isn't something you can buy and keep it in a safe place forever.
That's why love is so desired.. cause we cannot take it for granted..
What is taken for granted is not desired anymore..
What is taken for granted is not desired anymore..
What is easy is not desired.
It's the uncertain, that mystery that move us and keep us curious,
The naivety of believing,
That is what make it so desired.
We are not all the same. We don't have all the same needs and desires. And even the same person is not the same during her/his life. We change.
Our relationships are not the same and we behave different in each one of them.
We are in constant changing, so is love.
That's the beauty of love.. the experience, the growth
It's the uncertain, that mystery that move us and keep us curious,
The naivety of believing,
That is what make it so desired.
We are not all the same. We don't have all the same needs and desires. And even the same person is not the same during her/his life. We change.
Our relationships are not the same and we behave different in each one of them.
We are in constant changing, so is love.
That's the beauty of love.. the experience, the growth
One day love can just leave us...but suffering in advance, worrying about the future is not going to avoid it.
It can provoke the opposite effect.. suffocate love.. and make it leave earlier...
...the jealousy, the controlling, the arguing, the resentment..
That will transform love in a battle field. Where the other needs to defend herself/himself because their freedom is being attacked.
Trust, believing, sharing, naivety, respect, romance, exploration feeds Love.
...the jealousy, the controlling, the arguing, the resentment..
That will transform love in a battle field. Where the other needs to defend herself/himself because their freedom is being attacked.
Trust, believing, sharing, naivety, respect, romance, exploration feeds Love.
We cannot control it. But we can live it while it lasts, believing that is going to last forever.
Maybe it will, really, last forever.. we have no way of knowing it.
We can just believe
We can just live it
We can just live it
...that is happiness..living the now and enjoy its beauty...
