Parents are the first contact of the child with the world.
The world of the family is what the child believes to be the world. From them, they will build their understanding of the world
This is how they will understand basic concepts as love, right and wrong, good and evil, support, punishment, family,
Parents are the first and the most important role models.
They will use the teachings, they learned from the family, in their relationships and in their adult life.
The parents' behaviors will probably be copied. The education they are receiving, will very probably be similar to the one they will give to their children.
The parents' behaviors will probably be copied. The education they are receiving, will very probably be similar to the one they will give to their children.
These teachings will remain in their unconscious mind, even without them knowing or wanting.
And that's why the love of the parents is so important.
Being a parent is not simply to provide a roof, food, clothing, hygiene and rules.
The way you treat and educate your children will not just affect the future adult, but it will also affect your relationship with them forever...
Hurting your child is not just beating and shouting is also the emotional abuse, the exposition to violence, the negligence, the comparison, the constant criticism, the lack of affection, a hostile home environment.. making them feel worthless, a burden..
The children believe and trust you, so when you call them lazy, worthless, dumb, . They will believe you. And they will fight hard in the future to overcome that.
...these actions creates traumas in the child..
...invisible wounds that will hurt forever..
It deeply affects their self esteem, the way they see themselves..
The understanding of values and morals can be damaged.
The adult is a giant and the child is little and defenseless. Intellectually and physically defenseless.. so when a parent verbally or physically attacks them, it is not education - it's abuse...
They are little but they have feelings.. they just don't know the world yet as you.
Your authority will not be respected this way...your child will not respect you, will just fear you and accumulate resentment.
What you are doing and saying now to your children is the relationship you are building with them, for the future.
You are the ones showing them what is a relationship, what is love, what is support, what is right and wrong, what is bad and good ..
They will take to their life that basic concepts you taught them. And they will adjust them and work with them through their lives.
Whatever was the education you had (even if it involved violence, humiliation)... your children don't need to go through the same.. A child doesn't have maturity and knowledge enough to understand their actions and your expectations. They weren't born taught.
They just have needs and desires and want them to be satisfied. They are not trying to annoy their parents. They just want to have fun. The adult world is very boring. They need stimulation, they want to discover and learn...
It is not the children that should understand us, but we that should constantly try to understand them. They are not mature and intellectually developed enough yet.
The lack of affection can turn a child into a needy person or have the opposite effect and turn into a cold and distant person, or an angry adult.
When they don't receive affection, they will very probably look for that love outside the home, in friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives. But because they might be so needy their affairs may fail many times
These traumatic and bad experiences creates emotional and psychological obstacles that take time to overcome.. sometimes a lifetime...and requires maturity... some try to forget them through drugs, alcohol, strange behaviors.. some represses it and end in depression..
A child should be a child... joyful, curious, naive, dreamy, active .. and they should have a childhood...with stimulation, support, love, affection, care, teachings, conversation, understanding, fun, patience, protection, respect ...
The child that you punish, the child that you slap, the child that you call names, the child that you ignore, the child that you lie to, the child that you shout..
..Is going to be same adult that is going to be with you in the future...
..and this adult will remember everything you did and said. It will not be forgotten.
Don't blame your children for your frustrations, problems, ..don't punish them for what happens with you..
They didn't ask to born, you chose to.
And you are in charge.. they are dependent on you..Make the time you spend together pleasant.. this experience doesn't need to be bad..
Have fun together. Enjoy this time, when your children still have all the time of the world for you...
And that's why the love of the parents is so important.
Being a parent is not simply to provide a roof, food, clothing, hygiene and rules.
The way you treat and educate your children will not just affect the future adult, but it will also affect your relationship with them forever...
Hurting your child is not just beating and shouting is also the emotional abuse, the exposition to violence, the negligence, the comparison, the constant criticism, the lack of affection, a hostile home environment.. making them feel worthless, a burden..
The children believe and trust you, so when you call them lazy, worthless, dumb, . They will believe you. And they will fight hard in the future to overcome that.
...these actions creates traumas in the child..
...invisible wounds that will hurt forever..
It deeply affects their self esteem, the way they see themselves..
The understanding of values and morals can be damaged.
The adult is a giant and the child is little and defenseless. Intellectually and physically defenseless.. so when a parent verbally or physically attacks them, it is not education - it's abuse...
They are little but they have feelings.. they just don't know the world yet as you.
Your authority will not be respected this way...your child will not respect you, will just fear you and accumulate resentment.
What you are doing and saying now to your children is the relationship you are building with them, for the future.
You are the ones showing them what is a relationship, what is love, what is support, what is right and wrong, what is bad and good ..
They will take to their life that basic concepts you taught them. And they will adjust them and work with them through their lives.
Whatever was the education you had (even if it involved violence, humiliation)... your children don't need to go through the same.. A child doesn't have maturity and knowledge enough to understand their actions and your expectations. They weren't born taught.
They just have needs and desires and want them to be satisfied. They are not trying to annoy their parents. They just want to have fun. The adult world is very boring. They need stimulation, they want to discover and learn...
It is not the children that should understand us, but we that should constantly try to understand them. They are not mature and intellectually developed enough yet.
The lack of affection can turn a child into a needy person or have the opposite effect and turn into a cold and distant person, or an angry adult.
When they don't receive affection, they will very probably look for that love outside the home, in friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives. But because they might be so needy their affairs may fail many times
These traumatic and bad experiences creates emotional and psychological obstacles that take time to overcome.. sometimes a lifetime...and requires maturity... some try to forget them through drugs, alcohol, strange behaviors.. some represses it and end in depression..
A child should be a child... joyful, curious, naive, dreamy, active .. and they should have a childhood...with stimulation, support, love, affection, care, teachings, conversation, understanding, fun, patience, protection, respect ...
The child that you punish, the child that you slap, the child that you call names, the child that you ignore, the child that you lie to, the child that you shout..
..Is going to be same adult that is going to be with you in the future...
..and this adult will remember everything you did and said. It will not be forgotten.
Don't blame your children for your frustrations, problems, ..don't punish them for what happens with you..
They didn't ask to born, you chose to.
And you are in charge.. they are dependent on you..Make the time you spend together pleasant.. this experience doesn't need to be bad..
Have fun together. Enjoy this time, when your children still have all the time of the world for you...
Make good memories...when they grow they will remember everything they lived with you...
Your future relationship with your children when adults, will have this as the basis..
If you don't make activities with your children that includes them, where they can also have fun; as they grow, they will look to spend time with other people, cause there's nothing in common with you and it have been always boring.
if you think that your children are too young to understand the explanations to their questions, they will look for the answers in another place.
If there's no "communication" while they are children, as they grow they will not look to talk with you about their lives. Cause there's simply no connection.
If you don't make activities with your children that includes them, where they can also have fun; as they grow, they will look to spend time with other people, cause there's nothing in common with you and it have been always boring.
if you think that your children are too young to understand the explanations to their questions, they will look for the answers in another place.
If there's no "communication" while they are children, as they grow they will not look to talk with you about their lives. Cause there's simply no connection.
Aren't your children whom you love the most? So why treat them like that? Why making them feel like that?
Would you treat another family member like that? a friend? or someone who doesn't follow your rules?
Would you like to be treated like that?
Remember.. your children will walk your steps..
Remember.. your children will walk your steps..
